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In 1899, John Walter Wayland wrote what is perhaps the most succinct yet encompassing analysis of the behavior of the gentleman. The fraternity Sigma Alpha Epsilon adopted it in the 1930's and it is such;

“The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity; who is himself humbled if necessity compels him to humble another; who does not flatter wealth, cringe before power, or boast of his own possessions or achievements; who speaks with frankness but always with sincerity and sympathy; whose deed follows his word; who thinks of the rights and feelings of others, rather than his own; and who appears well in any company, a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe.”

The modesty of the gentleman, as such, is demonstrated though his actions. The value of his car should not exceed that of his horse, nor his house that of his accounts. The rules of his conduct are not usurped when others are not there to bear witness- for the gentleman's conduct does not have its source in the minds of others, nor in a sense of superiority. The politic of the gentleman is therefore a function of his nature as a gentleman and is subject to the same rules of conduct applied in person.